tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1566969531312189254.post4678312094891299526..comments2023-06-10T01:03:47.150-07:00Comments on Reviews, Rants and Reflections: In praise of the one child family (so other people can have 6)Ien in the Kootenayshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01766317652520657570noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1566969531312189254.post-62323471472011437202011-03-07T17:22:26.391-08:002011-03-07T17:22:26.391-08:00Sorry I missed these comments. You wrote:Ergo empo...Sorry I missed these comments. You wrote:Ergo empowering and educating women that choose their heritage over freedom is a total waste of time"<br /><br />That is a good point. We were watching a news item on Egypt, and it showed this woman who was a lawyer, and all she wanted to do was being a traditional super-Muslim brotherhood wife. AARGH! nevertheless, in the big picture it looks more positive.Ien in the Kootenayshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01766317652520657570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1566969531312189254.post-31341354318170654182011-02-26T14:56:23.657-08:002011-02-26T14:56:23.657-08:00Sorry, but after having worked for seven years in ...Sorry, but after having worked for seven years in Taos County, New Mexico with peer educators, etc.I have come to the conclusion that fighting cultural norms is not possible. Ergo empowering and educating women that choose their heritage over freedom is a total waste of time.<br /><br />I am seldom that negative. But in an 18 year period the Taos County DA never (that word is never)prosecuted a single crime against a woman and I include rape, incest, and family abuse. And the numbers of abused women that actually left for safer territory was so low as to be virtually non-existent. It was very humbling for me. And because of the threats against my life I moved even though it meant a divorce.JBinford-Bellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14293248281473648182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1566969531312189254.post-87100470094465028902011-02-26T13:20:24.804-08:002011-02-26T13:20:24.804-08:00Thanks for reading. This blog got interesting comm...Thanks for reading. This blog got interesting comments on Multiply. I was thinking about one friend there in particular, who had 6 kids and does so well. you wrote:<br /><br />"Unfortunately the not so well off, and not educated, and not independent women in poverty areas are often the ones having the largest families"<br /><br />That is precisely the point!!!<br />Educate and empower the women and the population goes down!Ien in the Kootenayshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01766317652520657570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1566969531312189254.post-14890529004330877662011-02-26T04:58:23.053-08:002011-02-26T04:58:23.053-08:00You pose, as you almost always do, some interestin...You pose, as you almost always do, some interesting things to consider. I think it would be wonderful if those good parents that wanted large families and could afford them did. But I have three examples of large families that keep coming to mind on this debate:<br /><br />1) A very religious right family that believes they need to populate the world with believers. This Red River family has 9 kids which are home schooled. The doctors have recommended her having her tubes tied for health reasons since child five. They receive state assistance for every kid.<br /><br />2) A lovely family with only a working father living in Albuquerque. They, at last count, had five beautiful girls. Keep trying for that boy. In spite of his job as a journeyman electrician they still get welfare, child assistance and food stamps. But they wanted a big family and were excellent parents<br /><br />3) A very low income Hispanic family with 6 (1 girl and 5 boys) living in an area with a high gang rate. I met her through peer educators because her oldest daughter was being abused by the father. I asked her once when she was crying after a miscarriage why she was not satisfied with the family she had. She informed me that her husband wanted another daughter as the oldest was leaving home. "Besides," she said, "you have to have a lot so one makes it out of here."<br /><br />Unfortunately the not so well off, and not educated, and not independent women in poverty areas are often the ones having the largest families. I know a young woman with three children - each with a different and absent father. She seems to believe she has to give every loser she dates a child.<br /><br />In an ideal world that would not be the case. And the number of children crowding into an SUV would just be because of love of kids.JBinford-Bellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14293248281473648182noreply@blogger.com